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And so I launched myself tentatively into the online dating scene, a brave new world to me.

And do I really want any more children, considering how a baby could impact on my children's world, which has already been turned upside down?And this is exactly what I didn't want, and indeed an issue my wife raised towards the end of her life."I want you to find someone else, but only if they are good for the children," she told me.I got married very young, at aged 22, back in 1999, when people met their partners the old-fashioned way – down the pub or at parties.Online dating was about as stigmatised as putting an ad in the lonely hearts column of the local paper, but from conversations with friends, it was clear that this was the way to go now.I particularly grew tired of the phrase "no baggage, please" on dating profiles. Hardly the stuff of romantic courtship, but nettles that needed to be grasped.

Surely only sociopaths don't have emotional baggage? I began to see patterns – for women without kids, my situation was often too much to handle.Then there were the high expectations – women writing that they were looking for a "knight in shining armour" (I'll get my sword and shield), "Mr Darcy" (I'll get my top hat and tails), "Mr Grey" (I'll get my riding crop and restraints). If they didn't want kids, then why would they take on mine?Reactions to my situation online were as varied as in real life – ranging from sympathy to avoidance, inquisitiveness and morbid curiosity. And if they did want kids, there must be plenty more eligible bachelors out there. This came out of the blue from my seven-year-old daughter Isabella – but then, little about our recent family life had been expected.My children lost their mother, Carolina, to breast cancer in June 2013. When she was terminally ill, we left our house, jobs and schools and moved back to the UK from abroad.I found swiping left or right at photos on Tinder incredibly superficial and gave that up after a few days.