Dating divorced men issues
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Married couples face the same challenge, and the balance between these two desires of mine is more about respect and courtesy than it is about being divorced or not.As a divorced dad I am just now entering in a new dating relationship with a woman who does not have kids. We have already had moments of “oh shit, your kids are there, I’m sorry …” and “don’t worry about the kids, they are in their rooms studying.” If I try to imagine her point of view I’d be projecting, so I’ll stick with mine.
From that point on, please treat it as an unexpected emergency. But if you’re avoiding the confrontation because “his kids need him all the time,” that might be the issue right there.
Most people who date a divorced man ALWAYS ignore the basic facts and think that just because you've “fallen in love” everything will be all sunshine and rainbows.
The truth is dating a divorced man is not a picnic.
An emergency will be evaluated on a case by case basis, and I will always attempt to let you know the real story.
I will try to say, “I’m sorry, sweetheart, I’m just tired and I don’t want to go,” rather than, “Oh, they moved the parent-teacher conference without telling me, and I need to bail on the opera.” I’ll simply say, “Sorry darling, I don’t like Opera.” We can take the negotiations from there.
___A woman who goes by the name “Lucky” responded to one of my Single Dad Wants posts with a moving and impassioned comment that’s too long to reprint here (scroll down for it). Your man, your divorced dad, is lucky to have someone so understanding.
As I was writing my response, I realized I was writing my next post about relationships. And while I only have limited experience with being on the dad’s side, I do have a little knowledge of what you speak.Never use your kids as an excuse, unless you simply need an excuse.But don’t make your kids the reason not to explore a new life, a new relationship, and the new intimacies that may open up a whole new future for you and them, eventually.The real answer is: As a single parent I have responsibilities to my kids that will trump all plans 100% of the time.However, I will never use those same responsibilities to disrespect you or avoid my commitment and responsibilities to you.With a divorced mom as a date, I know that she will understand when the kids trump our plans.