Dating a workaholic male
Dating a workaholic male
There's a few of us from the office that have semi-regular happy hour gatherings (that's how we met). (I don't know his exact age, but I would guess it's mid-30s.) I was so caught off-guard that I jumped up and went to the bathroom, and then made an excuse that I had to go to work early.He and I live pretty close also, so we've run into each other outside of those too. Although he's quiet and reserved at first, after a few drinks he loosens up and has a wicked sense of humor. We've had lunch since then and never spoke of his confession since, but I feel sort of weird that he would tell me this.
Is there anything I can do to salvage what had been a good friendship?
Everything about this person screams “workaholic.”It may seem like dating a workaholic would be a frustrating, overwhelming, hair-pulling experience, and it can be. However, dating a workaholic – someone who will not invest as much time in your relationship as you want – can actually be healthy for you.
Here's why: Your workaholic significant other will be so focused on his or her work that the spirit of healthy competition will challenge you to better your professional life as well.
Otherwise, you’re dooming yourself to a role as an afterthought, not a priority, in this relationship.
At the very least, though, you’ve already got a built-in date for any Halloween parties on your social calendar: the Invisible Man.
My life is kinda crazy and it means so much to me that you're sticking with me. -- Neglected A: It’s pretty simple: Either you accept that he’s a workaholic and deal with it, or accept that you can’t deal with it, and go forth accordingly.
Love you, sweetie." He's a wonderful guy, but I NEVER see him. I know what you’re thinking – that your failed take-a-break message, followed by his emotional textclaration of love, is the gods telling you to hang in there, right? As is the fact that as soon as I started writing this response, Cake’s “Never There” happened to come on the radio.A lot of actions (canceling dates, not calling, no sex, text-o-holic tendencies) that are making it very clear you’re not even on the back burner — you’re shivering from frostbite in the backyard.The only ray – wait, sliver — of hope I have is that if one of his jobs is temporary.It’s not like he pulled out a laptop crammed with kiddie porn or that his virgin status doesn’t apply to his relationship with his dog, for Pete’s sake.If anything, a little more compassion could go a long way.Instead of being complacent with your job, your SO’s unyielding work ethic will urge you to focus on your career.